Are you suffering from a broken heart?
“What we call a broken heart is really a broken illusion…an illusion resolving itself into a natural perfection!” King Ayles, author
“… ensures that each of us learned what we needed to be alive today.”
We carry so many illusions and delusions about love. The most common, and disheartening perhaps, is that loving someone is supporting them through thick and thin. This illusion is heavily marketed by corporations including Disney, Microsoft, Apple and many others who want our money for services rendered. They want us to love their theme parks, their software and their cell phones.
The truth, however, as experienced by everyone who has survived a family…which is most of us…is that loving someone is spending only half the time supporting them and the other half challenging them.
This, of course, is natural, and ensures that each of us learned what we needed to be alive today. Since the human heart is probably one of the most flexible organs in the human body, it can never really break…in fact biologically…it never stops flexing during our entire life.
But, as Dr. Sandeep Jauhar shows, it does respond physically to our emotional traumas. It actually changes it shape. This “shape shifting” can be very unhealthy and even deadly. As Dr. Jauhar states, “the heart acutely weakens in response to intense stress or grief, such as after a romantic breakup or the death of a loved one.”
Have you ever heard of a “takotsubo?” No? Me neither! It is a Japanese pot with a wide base and narrow neck. Sandeep shows how the traumatized heart looks very different than a normal heart. It appears stunned and frequently balloons into the distinctive shape of a “takotsubo.”
And, why is this important, you may be asking yourself? Most of the time your heart recovers it original shape after some time. But, what if with focused accelerated learning could get it back in shape much faster?
Have a look at Sandeep’s brief TedTalk, “How your emotions change the shape of your heart.” and if your heart is out of shape, please contact me right away.
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