Would you choose victimhood or victorhood or neither?

“To be alive is to be privileged!” – King Ayles, author

“So, nature has designed us to ensure being victimized is a temporary event…”    

The best definition I have come across of ‘victim’ is as follows:

“…a person who is deceived or cheated, as by his or her own emotions or ignorance, by the dishonesty of others, or by some impersonal agency.”

I have had the privilege to work with many people who have believed they have been victimized in some way, by an event in their past.   It could have been anything from the loss of faith in their spirit or deity; the loss of confidence in themselves, the loss of a job, the loss of money or some other form of wealth like their business; the loss of a friend or some other important relationship, the loss of a family member, or perhaps, the loss of their personal health or safety.

Whatever their perceived form of victimization, they are convinced they have lost more than they have gained, they have experienced more pain than pleasure.  So, the task of an effective intervener is to help this person uncover the other side of the situation, the side they are blind to at this point in time.  If, and when, they uncover the other side, it doesn’t eliminate the pain of the event, it neutralizes it.  This reduces the emotion of the event and increase the appreciation of the event.   This frees them to get on with their life.   So, nature has designed us to ensure being victimized is a temporary event, not a permanent one.

Most people don’t believe this is even possible, so they get themselves caught in an emotional trap of victimhood which is often unknowingly encouraged by those around them.     They take the victim idea and make it a noun, victimhood, instead of a adjective, victimized.

With that preamble, let me introduce Dr. Gill Hicks.   Gill is considered to be one of the most thought provoking, powerful and life affirming speakers in Australia and the UK. She is globally known as a survivor of the London terrorist bombings on July 7, 2005. She survived, but suffered severe and permanent injuries, losing both legs from just below the knee.

In 2013 Gill welcomed her daughter, Amelie into the world. This, as she describes it, is her finest achievement and greatest acknowledgement of the brilliance and resilience of the human body.

I would suggest an equally brilliant achievement and resiliency of her mind has been how she has risen from being a victim, to being a victor, over her past.   And, perhaps, she is both a victim and a victor…but, I think, more accurately, she is really neither.   Rather, she is a wiser, stronger, more evolved human being.   And, in so being, she challenges us to evolve our own mind, our own perception of victimhood, in a similar way.

But, please…you decide for yourself.    Watch her inspiring talk and make your own decision at:

And, please send me your thoughts!   I welcome them!

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!” – HelenKeller, author

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