Why Do: STEP 5 | Social LOCATE YOUR FRIENDS

You need to be both, supported and challenged, to learn to survive. Humans are a social animal and so friends play an important role in learning and surviving.   Many do not understand how their friends serve them in life.   You will learn that in this step which will enable you to be successful.

Let’s review quickly your progress towards success so far: Step 1 uncovered your life purpose, Step 2 your values, Step 3 your dream job and Step 4 your wealth.

Step 5 helps you identify and appreciate your best friend and the real friends who assist you in being successful.

Step 5 includes:

• A learning tool to identify your best friend
• Sidestep 13 which helps you to listen to your best friend
• Sidestep 14 which enables you identify your real friends
• Sidestep 15 which links your friends to your life purpose

FIRST – Watch the Friends! video:

SECOND –  Read below, the key ideas about friends:

• The values you identified in Step 2 are the ways which you live your purpose. They are unique to you because of your unique life experiences, so no one will have your value system. So you cannot trust anyone to have the same values as you. And, you cannot expect anyone to support your values, they are busy supporting their own.
• You, like all humans, are a social animal. You survive best in groups. So you engage in both familial and social, relationships as part of your efforts to thrive and survive.
• You develop relationships with various degrees of trust attached to them. The more trust you have in someone the safer you feel with them.  The most trust we save for family members and a few other individuals.
• Many people select one person as their most trusted non-family member and call that person their best friend.  Many are surprised who their real friends turn out to be, and who is their best friend.
• You project levels of trust in others to help you survive. You trust your motor mechanic to fix your car, you trust your dentist to fix your teeth, and so on!   Research indicates most humans moves in a social circle of about 400 people.   Most are what you might term acquaintances, that is, people whom you interact with to achieve an objective related to your survival. This includes neighbours, colleagues and others who provide services to you.
• There are others who you interact with repeatedly who add something more to your life by helping you build and maintain your self esteem.  This self esteem is critical for your future, so you place higher value of those who contribute to your self esteem.
• You call them friends, buddies or kindred spirits.  They are not related to you, but you still feel a special connection, because you share one of your highest values with them, yourself.  You display a higher level of trust in these friends because you believe they put your welfare high in their values.
• While you can be friends with anyone, you actually have three to five close friends.  These close friends are few in number because of the time and energy it takes to build, and maintain, such relationships.
• Your close friendships are not limited by time or space. Where they are or how often you see them, is not a factor in them being your friend.  It’s time to find out who your best friend and real friends are.

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Now go to the learning tool to find out who is your best friend.